Self-Love. Do You Practice It? 6 Out of Ten People Don’t.

Reprogramming One’s Mind and Actions to Achieve Self-Love

Change your negative thought patterns by reprogramming your mind. Our data (memories) can become corrupted, obsolete, outdated, and virus-like infected. Just like a computer or any other technology device.

People format their computers and other technology devices, so why don’t we? We need to upgrade our own operating systems (brains) throughout our journey of life.

We hold a lot of deep-seated thoughts and data in our subconscious minds. That our analytical conscious mind is not even aware of. A deep cleansing or a defrag might be all that is needed.

To achieve reprogramming your brain or de-fragmentation of your software. These are some activities that may assist you.

  • Mantras
  • Meditations
  • Mindfulness
  • Self-affirmations
  • Practicing self-love
  • Listening to binaural beats
  • Self-hypnosis or hypnotherapy
  • Energy healing and chakra balancing
  • Listening or reading to self-improvement books
  • Staying positive and surrounding yourself with high vibrational people

Some recommended authors and/or artists that you can Google, YouTube, visit your local library or bookstore.

  • Dr. Joe Dispenza
  • Louise Hay
  • Rhonda Byrne
  • Anthony Williams
  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Deepak Chopra
  • Dr. Wayne Dyer
  • Steve Nobel
  • many more

You are also invited to reach out to me, for any self-hypnosis — self-help sessions. Any healing modalities that can be catered to your own personal circumstances. If money is a factor, YouTube will become your new best friend. As there is a wealth of free informational videos and meditations.

There is no one more important than ‘you’, so treat yourself as your very own best friend. Be kind, caring, loving, and nurturing to yourself. The more that you put into yourself, the more that your loved ones will also benefit from your new founded awesomeness.

I can guarantee that it is not selfish to care for your own needs. We can not simply run on empty and give out a 100% to our partners, children, families, and friends.

This is a very common mistake that many parents or carers make. When a person does not invest in themselves, their loved ones are affected by this too. Especially when one is overworked, tired, stressed, or having relationship problems. This sets up behavioral patterns for their children or the person that they care for. This is a form of programming pattern which usually creates childhood trauma.

When a person has no family or friend support, reprogramming a mindset is harder to achieve. Try to join a support network group or see what community services that may be available to you.


It is very important to forgive yourself and others. As it is really important for your overall health. Everything is energy, even our thoughts. Emotional blockages can create illnesses in our physical and mental bodies. It is not necessarily to tell someone that you have forgiven them, especially if they were in the wrong. It will likely stroke their ego and give them permission to repeat the same old patterns.

Forgiving and removing yourself from toxic situations or person/s improves one’s life. It empowers you to be the empress or emperor of your life. As you are no longer a victim to your past. The past creates depression, other illnesses, and toxic behaviours. Living in the future can create anxiety, so just live for the now.

Examples of non-forgiveness

A client had a father who sexually abused her, throughout her life, held onto resentment. She continued to have the most toxic relationships with men throughout her life… She asked me, “Why I cannot find the right relationship for myself?” She was adamant with me that she had forgiven her dad, so strongly that she got mad with me when I suggested the reason as to why… Anger is caused by fear, this usually stems from not accepting a situation — not healing and moving on from it…

Has she forgiven her dad? That was a hard no.

After a relative of mine died, I found out that everything that I knew about this relative was a complete lie. My thoughts constantly went over and over every accusation they had ever accused/abused me off. The things that I was blamed for that I had never committed. For years afterward, I looked at everyone and wondered if they were telling me the truth.

Had I truly forgiven them? That was a hard no too.

Signs of deep-seated non-forgiveness:

  • Fear, always being afraid
  • Anger towards yourself and others
  • Mistrust yourself and others.
  • Judgemental of yourself and others
  • Feelings of rejection

If you are doing the same thing over and over again and you end up with the very same disastrous results. You need to work on forgiveness in addition to all the other steps outlined in this article.

Raising Your Vibrations

Be the very best version of yourself. Be:

  • Truthful
  • Kind
  • Loving
  • Forgiving
  • Non-judgemental
  • Understanding
  • Mindful of any addictions or toxic behaviours that you may have

When your vibrations rise, you will be able to develop a different view of your life. Everything becomes more achievable. Your problems will no longer be the center of attention in your life.

What was once an elephant-sized problem will be seen as the size of an ant.

To achieve a higher vibrational level of consciousness, it’s very important to be in full awareness of the environments that you place yourself in. Also, pay attention to the vibrations of the people and activities that you partake in. Stay in a positive mindset and you will attract higher vibrational friends.

Distance yourself from any negativity, pessimism, or people who drain your energy. When a person leaves you feeling tired, drained, and with a headache, you’ve been around an energy vampire.

The Five Selves

The most important relationship that you will ever have, is with yourself. It is recommended that we commit to our self-awareness, self-confidence, self-worth, self-esteem, and self-care. These are the five main foundations that one needs to have a strong and healthy love, for oneself.

Below is what one needs to incorporate into our everyday lives. This helps to balance ourselves on an emotional, physical and spiritual level.

  • Self-awareness — the state of being conscious. An awareness of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, and surroundings.
  • Self-confidence — to have confidence in one’s own judgment and abilities.
  • Self-worth — the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.
  • Self-esteem — realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself.
  • Self-care — the act of attending to one’s physical, mental health, and spiritual self.


“Not feeling self-love, is an indication of being emotionally neglected as a child.” — medical source.

Don’t get me wrong I am not damning your parents/caregivers. I am positive that they have done the best to their ability and under their own circumstances of life. Plus, we are all wired differently and our emotional levels vary from one person to another. Some people cannot feel emotions, as they are entrapped in their own trauma. Who are we to judge?

You are simply responsible for your own life. So start nurturing your inner child and practicing self-love advice, which will change your life. Be that supportive parent to yourself by accepting your strengths and weakness. Allow yourself to cry and then move on from the past. You don’t need to go down that very dark rabbit hole to try to understand why things happened. Do not live in your past, as it is very dead energy, which is the cord of thoughts that you are holding onto.

Now, take the brave steps, that you need to take. Live in the now — the present. Embrace the miracles and opportunities that will come your way on this journey.

P.S… If you did have real shitty parents/caregivers you do need a double dosage of forgiveness.

Thank You

If no one has not told you today, that you’re honoured and that you are loved. I am holding that space for you, right now — because you are loved.

With Blessings and Love — Sherry 💚



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